As parents, there is pressure to stay calm under pressure. We know yelling, complaining and losing our cool is not helpful. And yet we are human, and just like kids, being told to “be calm” isn’t helpful. In order to help our kids, we need to reduce our stress and feel heard and understood. Chances are there are sources of stress in your home.
With the Mariposa method, we teach adults specific language in expressing our concerns, hopes and feelings with children in a way that is likely to reduce your stress and the cortisol levels in you, while also making it more likely that your child will hear you, and even understand you. Adults are often surprised at how able children are to develop the awareness of adult feelings and concerns when we give them the chance to do so.