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It is not what you say, but how you say it - Shared screen with gallery view
Kathy Goumas
02:12:58
Dave, your story with your son is such a great example of creating space, like opening a door rather than slamming it closed!
Steve
02:17:53
Interesting Corey. Authenticity is key hey?
Steve
02:18:28
Anik, I am not familiar enough with the literature on tis subject…….
Steve
02:19:19
Ariane that is a useful story
Steve
02:20:10
Anik: Cognitive empathy and emotional empathy.
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
02:21:59
I'm sorry, I just realized I was only commenting to the panelists when I sent my earlier message that Dave referred to:
Steve
02:22:01
Participants: please send comments to EVERYONE! Thanks Kathy.
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
02:22:09
...there are some studies (e.g., Marsh, 2018) that show different neural correlates of cognitive empathy (temporal and parietal, which is also consistent with mindful awareness) versus empathic concern (amygdala and SNS regions associated with emotional distress), but what's interesting the latter is also associated with activity in the reward and frontal regions (i.e., both cognitive empathy and sympathetic activity are associated with pathways to frontal activity and reward - we are wired for social connection and compassion!). Matt Orr and Stan Steidl talked about this at Forum in New Orleans as well. :)
John O’Connor
02:22:48
Thanks guys really informative conversation. Have to drop off but will catch last minutes later. Thank you
Russell
02:23:00
try to use the Q&A function to submit questions and use the chat for conversation between yourselves
Maryam Yahya
02:23:36
...For me it depends on the subject not so much the gender. if someone reveals something intimate and unexpected I can get stuck!
David Jefferson
02:33:38
My take on relatedness. At the core of the conversation one needs to maintain a relation with the other person. To archive that one needs to manage their emotions, biases and reactions and remain curios, attentive, compassionate and seek to understand the other person. The relationship is the bridge to care. Thank you for shinning the light on the importance of relations.
margaret thomas
02:35:42
We get conditioned as sports coaches to demonstrate techniques & technicalities, but a huge percentage of their success depends on how they approach their sport, what theyre thinking. I’ve never asked an athlete how they want to be coached - but I’m going to try it! (Mine is an individual sport - shooting - so I’m going to get loads of different answers!)
Steve
02:35:59
Go go go Margaret
Joe Simmons
02:37:37
I use MI in coaching singers and regularly ask them how they’d like to be coached. Makes a huge difference!
Steve
02:38:40
Wow Joe. Interesting.
Richard Bowles
02:39:30
Being "athlete-centred" is a common aspiration of many coaching programmes at the moment. Perhaps asking athletes how they would like to be coached should be a central strategy if we want to be truly "athlete-centred"?
Joe Simmons
02:40:23
Thanks, Steve. I’m about to start reading your book on sports coaching. Hoping to make some helpful connections.
Julie Moffat
02:42:17
Some very interesting stuff, thank you! I'm going to need to go now. Many thanks. Julie M. Aberdeen
Scott Murray
02:42:51
Total sidebar - Loving Nikki’s basement background
MI& Beyond
02:44:12
https://www.guardiansofthenationaltreasure.org/
José Rijnaard
02:45:02
Many many thanks to all of you! Highly inspiring
Maryam Yahya
02:46:05
Thanks for doing this. Looking forward to the next one!!
MI& Beyond
02:46:07
https://www.guardiansofthenationaltreasure.org/
Russell
02:46:23
you're all very welcome. thanks for joining us today
margaret thomas
02:47:12
Thank you very much - I’ve come away with new ideas (again!)
Louise Messenger
02:47:15
Thank you for your time today. Bye
Mike Porteous
02:47:21
Many thanks to you - all the best
Di Murray
02:47:49
Many Thanks all and hope you son isn't stuck anymore Nikki!
Sofia Trygg Lycke
02:49:00
Many thanks <3 /Sofia
Steve
02:53:20
Thank you Alaha, very much.
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
02:56:42
Thank you everyone!
Amira Aly
02:57:42
Thank you all very much. It’s been great!
Joe Simmons
02:59:04
Great discussion. Thanks, everyone!
Kathy Goumas
03:01:13
I think that authenticity is vital and being transparent is useful so if I always remain calm it seems incongruent to the situation
Kathy Goumas
03:03:44
timing is all important 👍
Steve
03:06:41
Yeah Greg I heard a webinar with Lucy. Left me worried I must say. It was frustrating to listen to. I must be honest.
Steve
03:07:43
Cheers Greg. One day I would love to chat to Lucy. Lots of useful ideas… yet I have reservations….
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
03:07:50
What I'm hearing is not only allowing oneself to connect to our common humanity in the interaction, but also perhaps recognizing the utility of doing so, with presence and taking care of self (emotion regulation/distress tolerance) while also expressing care for another person. We do have the capacity to practice all of that.
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
03:09:03
Thanks Margo! The three components of mindful self-compassion :)
Steve
03:11:09
Hey thanks Onna. So helpful.
Onna Brewer (she/her/hers)
03:13:14
My pleasure
Anik Lamborelle
03:13:42
Thank you all, very interesting webinar. Love hearing about MI whenever I can ;)
Katie
03:15:05
Thanks everyone, such an interesting webinar. Great to hear from such a diverse group of people.
Joanne Hunt
03:28:14
Thanks everyone great to connect with you.