ha ha

Jumping to (probably incorrect) conclusions when something small happens

...and doubting most of my decisions and choices

asking for validation on my decisions

time

support

Not buying into it

Just resist it in the moment

motivation - feeling worthwhile enough to give self the time

The task that needs to be done doesn't give me energy or joy

don't prioratise it

you have told yourself you can't do it

I tried it before and it didn't work

Yes

no

We tell ourselves stories like "I'm a morning person" or "I'm a night owl" these stories limit us from taking action.

imagine how you will feel

Yes, Adam, I agree. It’s also other people’s perception of you too and what they believe you can do.

Make a schedule to start with - that is doable

Set rewards for yourself, keep a view on the overall goal and how you'll feel when you've achieved it

Depends what's stronger, pain or gain

Remind self that it might take a very long time to make a difference (especially with physio)

Adapt it to make it enjoyable.

Do something enjoyable at the same time, e.g. listen to music or watch TV

i gave up alcohol recently

We often lose sight of how that task links to the bigger picture or overall goal.

I have given up milk

Kudos Gaye!

someone encourages you/forces you

There's an amazing book by Mel Robbins called "The 5 Second Rule" which will help massively with snooze button issues! :)

Hitting snooze releases dopamine, its so hard to break the habit. We are procrastinating when we hit it, because we are delaying the pain of whatever the morning has in store.

yes should have been at work tonight, but couldn't be bothered to go, kept changing my mind about going or not

Coaching clients will often talk about Fear of Success too

This is true for me trying to post on social media somettim

sometimes

What’s the fear of success Adam?

I wimped out of a launch party when I rebranded a couple of years ago, purely because I was scared no one would show up and I'd look a failure!

Kathy, the fear sounds like "will it change me?" "will I lose friends?" "Will I be too busy?" "Will I be able to cope with all my new followers on Insta/LinkedIn?"

Ah, ok. Thanks

What happens if you can't break it down, for example going to work to do the same thing over and over again then coming home again

The failure in front of others feels painful too

Fear of success too - spot on!! Lightbulb moment, thanks Adam and Jess! x

Laura, we are conditioned to see failure as a negative, when in fact its just an opportunity to learn and grow.

What happens if the thing you are putting off is just a drudge like paper work/

the job I am doing during lockdown, I have to do to get the money and I am starting to really struggle to go to it, but I have to for financial reasons, I can't break it down but being at home, I have to force myself to get in the car and go.

I’m really sorry - I’d like to go and make sure my youngest is getting ready for bed as he has school in the morning. Thanks so much, Jess, see you Saturday x

Yes very true with failure Adam. I feel like I’m great with that on my own, but I find myself conscious of other people perceiving me as a failure

That would be very helpful if you can record it please :)

yes please

That's great thank you!!!!!!!

yes definitely

super helpful !

thanks you

Very helpful. Reminded me of how chunking can really help.

Thanks Jess, super insightful

Really useful tools to try out , Jess. Thank you

Very helpful information as always. Thank you Jess

thank you Jess

Love that! Thank you!!! xx

thank you - so helpful

That was great Jess thank you

Thank you Jess!

Thank you Jess ! :)