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Time to Thrive - Changing Behaviours with NLP, with Jess
Adam
18:57
ha ha
Amy
19:17
Jumping to (probably incorrect) conclusions when something small happens
Amy
19:45
...and doubting most of my decisions and choices
linda mcdonald-brown
21:22
asking for validation on my decisions
Gaye Williams
24:45
time
Gaye Williams
24:54
support
Heather Matthews
24:56
Not buying into it
Laura Thomas
25:11
Just resist it in the moment
Amy
25:11
motivation - feeling worthwhile enough to give self the time
Adam
25:13
The task that needs to be done doesn't give me energy or joy
Anji
25:57
don't prioratise it
Rosie M
26:12
you have told yourself you can't do it
Heather Matthews
27:23
I tried it before and it didn't work
Heather Matthews
28:54
Yes
Heather Matthews
29:34
no
Adam
32:21
We tell ourselves stories like "I'm a morning person" or "I'm a night owl" these stories limit us from taking action.
Gaye Williams
35:29
imagine how you will feel
Kathy Thomas
35:30
Yes, Adam, I agree. It’s also other people’s perception of you too and what they believe you can do.
Amy
35:46
Make a schedule to start with - that is doable
Adam
36:07
Set rewards for yourself, keep a view on the overall goal and how you'll feel when you've achieved it
Pasquale Mansi
36:11
Depends what's stronger, pain or gain
Amy
36:18
Remind self that it might take a very long time to make a difference (especially with physio)
Amy R
37:00
Adapt it to make it enjoyable.
Rosie M
39:09
Do something enjoyable at the same time, e.g. listen to music or watch TV
Gaye Williams
39:21
i gave up alcohol recently
Adam
39:22
We often lose sight of how that task links to the bigger picture or overall goal.
linda mcdonald-brown
39:24
I have given up milk
Adam
39:50
Kudos Gaye!
Rosie M
41:01
someone encourages you/forces you
Adam
45:54
There's an amazing book by Mel Robbins called "The 5 Second Rule" which will help massively with snooze button issues! :)
Adam
51:09
Hitting snooze releases dopamine, its so hard to break the habit. We are procrastinating when we hit it, because we are delaying the pain of whatever the morning has in store.
linda mcdonald-brown
56:25
yes should have been at work tonight, but couldn't be bothered to go, kept changing my mind about going or not
Adam
01:04:11
Coaching clients will often talk about Fear of Success too
Laura Thomas
01:04:42
This is true for me trying to post on social media somettim
Laura Thomas
01:04:46
sometimes
Kathy Thomas
01:05:22
What’s the fear of success Adam?
Ella Louise Woodhouse
01:06:29
I wimped out of a launch party when I rebranded a couple of years ago, purely because I was scared no one would show up and I'd look a failure!
Adam
01:07:13
Kathy, the fear sounds like "will it change me?" "will I lose friends?" "Will I be too busy?" "Will I be able to cope with all my new followers on Insta/LinkedIn?"
Kathy Thomas
01:08:20
Ah, ok. Thanks
linda mcdonald-brown
01:17:27
What happens if you can't break it down, for example going to work to do the same thing over and over again then coming home again
Laura Thomas
01:26:18
The failure in front of others feels painful too
Ella Louise Woodhouse
01:26:34
Fear of success too - spot on!! Lightbulb moment, thanks Adam and Jess! x
Adam
01:28:06
Laura, we are conditioned to see failure as a negative, when in fact its just an opportunity to learn and grow.
Pasquale Mansi
01:28:22
What happens if the thing you are putting off is just a drudge like paper work/
linda mcdonald-brown
01:28:35
the job I am doing during lockdown, I have to do to get the money and I am starting to really struggle to go to it, but I have to for financial reasons, I can't break it down but being at home, I have to force myself to get in the car and go.
Kathy Thomas
01:30:20
I’m really sorry - I’d like to go and make sure my youngest is getting ready for bed as he has school in the morning. Thanks so much, Jess, see you Saturday x
Laura Thomas
01:31:35
Yes very true with failure Adam. I feel like I’m great with that on my own, but I find myself conscious of other people perceiving me as a failure
natashakhan
01:35:15
That would be very helpful if you can record it please :)
Gaye Williams
01:35:27
yes please
Ella Louise Woodhouse
01:35:45
That's great thank you!!!!!!!
Amy
01:35:49
yes definitely
natashakhan
01:35:50
super helpful !
Amy
01:35:52
thanks you
Adam
01:36:01
Very helpful. Reminded me of how chunking can really help.
Laura Thomas
01:36:07
Thanks Jess, super insightful
Heather Matthews
01:36:42
Really useful tools to try out , Jess. Thank you
Mark Klein
01:36:48
Very helpful information as always. Thank you Jess
Anji
01:38:36
thank you Jess
Ella Louise Woodhouse
01:46:02
Love that! Thank you!!! xx
Gaye Williams
01:46:47
thank you - so helpful
Laura Thomas
01:46:53
That was great Jess thank you
Adam
01:46:55
Thank you Jess!
natashakhan
01:46:58
Thank you Jess ! :)