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Let's Talk 2e Coffee Chat ☕ - Shared screen with speaker view - Recording 2/2
Victoria-Rose Supper
21:49
Welcome everyone! Let us know what you're drinking and where you're from! ☺️
Victoria-Rose Supper
23:21
I'm drinking apple tea in St. Petersburg, FL!
Julie Skolnick (She/Her)
25:13
How do you relate (participants) to self awareness, personal fulfillment and professional fulfillment?
Teri ( She/Her )
27:52
Good Morning Everyone ☺️✨ I'm visiting you from Western Canada with a morning cup of yummy Chai.
Victoria-Rose Supper
28:17
Hi everyone! Just fixed the chat - you can all interact with each other 😊
Maya
29:11
Hello! I’m joining from Sweden, with a bottle of water next to me. Nice to be here with you all!
Victoria-Rose Supper
29:43
Great to meet you Teri and Maya!
Teri ( She/Her )
29:54
Hi Maya
Victoria-Rose Supper
30:19
A question for the audience: How do you relate to self awareness, personal fulfillment and professional fulfillment? 🤔
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
30:31
Thank you Victoria! hello from London, UK. I'm having warm grape juice (not wine!) Is raw, cold pressed and full of antioxidants :-)
Teri ( She/Her )
30:52
Thanks for fixing the chat Victoria ☺️
Victoria-Rose Supper
30:53
Welcome Catalina! That sounds delish!
Teri ( She/Her )
31:44
That does sound yummy Catalina
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
32:02
Self-awareness and awareness in general is key to everything including personal and professional fulfilment. Being self-aware helps me stay authentic and connected with myself, others and environment/world/other species/universe
Teri ( She/Her )
34:06
That's a big question Victoria … I can say that I can absolutely relate to this current topic - holding responsibility for the way the world views us and making oneself small to fit in or even to hide from judgement. It was a life changing epiphany for me when that lit up in my mind. … how I place myself in the world
Teri ( She/Her )
34:47
Nicely said @Catalina
Leah 🦋
35:38
I am and taught children who are nurodivergent. They do believe what they are told. Like lazy, obnoxious etc. I am different not worse or better in all areas. This is something that I had to teach my students. Like being left handed you may have to do things differently but you can get things done.
Maya
37:22
I’m writing and erasing over and over again. Too many thoughts and reflections at the same time. 😂
Maya
38:13
I enjoy the conversation. I’m talking with you internally for now.
Teri ( She/Her )
38:37
😆 I feel this Maya !!! I get half a thought down and the talk takes me somewhere else then my marbles wander off on their own !
Maya
38:45
:)
Lisa Kornze
38:49
Ditto!
Maya
39:07
Teri: yes, exactly like that! :)
Victoria-Rose Supper
39:08
Same, Maya! Leah, I LOVE what you said about differences - our neurodivergent lens brings such unique perspectives and gifts to the table
Hunter Blanton
39:37
yes
Maya
40:59
Yes, relational healing!!!
Teri ( She/Her )
41:47
I'm loving this direction of thought Maggie
Lisa Kornze
42:01
This resonates as I look at different areas of where to relationally heal.
Pam Sugarman
43:24
Hi from Atlanta. Thinking about process and outcome. Diagnosed last year at 55. Thinking giving voice to my challenges/process is often, not always, annoying. Giving voice to a request about how to relate/work best with me (outcome) is useful. Thinking about tracking that. Your thoughts?
Lisa Kornze
43:27
This makes sense outside of human relationship, too. As I look at my work and how I can do it in a silo…
Michelle Baughman
44:01
Getting out of one’s own head and thinking/caring about someone else can be very healing and rewarding.
Leah 🦋
45:16
How about not exceptional but an individual will a set of skills and needs.
Maya
45:17
The relational narrative(s) can only be written and rewritten within relationship or while relating. <— One fragmental thought from a much bigger thought.
Victoria-Rose Supper
45:29
If you have any questions for Maggie or Scott, feel free to drop them in the chat! :)
Maya
45:37
relationships
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
46:27
exactly what I told few of my close friends, relationship healing but it has to be mutual. I had to let go of these relationships as they were so self-centred and I no matter what I was doing and how I was trying to explain, they just wanted me to soothe them but this was not happening in both directions.Also being mis-understood or not met at the level of depth-ness where I am, makes it difficult to relate to people. So I'm starting to connect to new people, who are also gifted or else is very difficult and quite impossible.
Pam Sugarman
48:38
Thanks. Helpful comments.
Michelle Baughman
49:36
I agree with SBK, but there is also the scenario where we have been so criticized (being undiagnosed 2e) that we don’t feel comfortable speaking up for ourselves.
Leah 🦋
49:39
I say skip the labels and ask for what you need. May I have things you request in writing so I can refer back to them. This can help anyone.
Teri ( She/Her )
50:10
I'm scribbling thoughts so fast in my notebook - but reading and listening to everything here. Completing agree with that fragmented thought Maya.Catalina - I think you have such an important point about the reciprocal relationships we crave … I wonder if we self sabotage this sometimes by being givers, fixers etc?
Victoria-Rose Supper
50:43
Links for these blogs incoming! :)
Leah 🦋
50:50
Please put sources in chat. Thank you.
Teri ( She/Her )
51:19
Agree completely Michelle … difficult to feel safe in self-advocating in a world that has taught one to be small.
Victoria-Rose Supper
51:24
Here are all of Maggie's blogs: https://maggiebrown.co/readings/
Leah 🦋
52:18
Thank you.
Victoria-Rose Supper
52:27
Blogs mentioned:The Single Most Important Thing to LearnGuts, Grimaces, and Undetermined Outcomes
Michelle Baughman
52:50
Maggie, stepping away from what doesn’t work may mean stepping away from out source of employment.
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
53:57
@Teri I used to be a healer, giver, fixer but not anymore. I mean I still help when asked but not to my detriment. I also raised my standards and I'm not trying to instil complexity in relationships, but searching for the more suitable people with whom I can have a reciprocal relationship.Nowadays I prefer to have peace and be happy rather than feel the stress coming from unsuitable relationships. I've become better at voicing out what I need and want. If it doesn't feel good I step away before it becomes a problem.
Maya
54:00
Certain situations are near impossible to leave.
Michelle Baughman
54:04
… and leaving one job makes getting hired again at another job nearly impossible. So a lot is iMessage, there really isn’t choice.
Leah 🦋
54:20
The recommendations for gifted, ADHD, dyslexic etc. are very much the same.
Hunter Blanton
54:56
memememe
Leah 🦋
55:00
Me
Lisa Kornze
55:07
Yep
Victoria-Rose Supper
55:07
Me
Hunter Blanton
55:14
Thanks for the contrarian perspective anyway...
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
55:21
I recently stood up to bulling at work for myself and got management to support me and it was a happy outcome for me. A lot of healing happened for me in that moment
Michelle Baughman
55:22
Me too
Lisa Kornze
55:32
What would you recommend in that moment to keep from spiraling into that feeling?
Leah 🦋
55:37
Sometimes it is the issue of another not you.
Teri ( She/Her )
55:48
@Catalina … the very same here. It's not always easy but it makes such a difference in the peace I feel. For me It's about being intentional rather than reactive.
Maya
56:07
Great Catalina! ♡
C W
56:23
What if you don’t have any of those people, though?
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
56:41
@Teri, very good! I love that. Intentional rather than reactive
Leah 🦋
57:14
I back up and say if my friend felt this way what would I say to them. Then I tell myself.
Teri ( She/Her )
57:24
@Catalina … Well done at work !!!!
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
57:29
if we don't have those special friends, here we are! Let's try here together :-)
Lisa Kornze
57:58
Thanks, @Leah!
Teri ( She/Her )
58:21
@Leah … isn't that the truth 💖 We are worth the grace we would show others.
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
58:35
thank you @Maya and @Teri
C W
58:35
I’ve heard the “what would say to a good friend who felt this way?” in countless self-help books and from therapists, and it always makes me feel terrible.
Victoria-Rose Supper
58:38
@Catalina Hear, hear!
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
58:56
😍
Teri ( She/Her )
58:58
@Catalina, it's been pretty cool with each of these events … I feel like I've found my 'people' !
Leah 🦋
59:03
Some people are so kind to others but not themselves.
Victoria-Rose Supper
59:24
If you haven't joined the Let's Talk 2e Adult Community, here's the link ♥️ : https://www.facebook.com/groups/749765199034202
Lisa Kornze
59:47
@CW, curious to understand why it makes you feel that way?
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
59:56
@Teri, me too! And it gives me hope that this time it will be alright and I'm finally home
Leah 🦋
01:00:24
I am on both ends of the bell curve. Top in visual perception and extremely low in spelling.
C W
01:00:48
It makes me feel terrible because it reminds me that I have no close friends who would ever be talking to me that way.
Sue Bender
01:00:53
"Finding people" is one thing.... How do you move from hanging out with someone, to being a "close friend"? (Examples can also include zoom groups.)
Teri ( She/Her )
01:00:58
@Leah … I wonder what the stats on this might be. I"m similar.
Victoria-Rose Supper
01:01:11
Thank you all for coming! It was such a treat getting to meet and get to know you all!
Maya
01:01:31
Thanks for this conversation. I’ve enjoyed hanging out with you. :)
Teri ( She/Her )
01:01:35
@Sue … intentionality, reaching out, connection … 💖
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
01:01:54
I love these sessions and would be lovely if we could do something similar when we can all talk to each-other (some smaller groups perhaps)
Leah 🦋
01:01:58
CW find your place in the world and you will find friends who understand.
Sue Bender
01:01:58
@Teri.... please elaborate
Teri ( She/Her )
01:02:08
how is this over so soon??? ☺️ such lovely people here
C W
01:02:09
Since it’s such a common piece of advice for dealing with negative self-talk, it’s very unfortunate that the advice itself sends me on a spiral. It’s tricky to work around to try to still get some benefit out of the books or therapy.
Victoria-Rose Supper
01:02:19
Connect with Scott: scottbarrykaufman.comConnect with Maggie: maggiebrown.co
Jeffrey Hamberger
01:02:39
Great job, Julie, o
Jeffrey Hamberger
01:03:31
putting on this wonderful, informativegathering.
Lisa Kornze
01:03:36
That is a tough one to keep hearing in that way, CW. Hope this group keeps connection growing for you.
Maya
01:04:15
C W, I understand that! ♡
Teri ( She/Her )
01:04:18
@Sue, I wish I had more time … but I think what I'm saying is that it's like any relationship - we are all here and have this commonality which is amazing but it doesn't mean we are all going to be 'best friends ' right off.We will find the ones who we connect with here or on the fb group etc, and reach out to them
Lisa Kornze
01:04:33
Thank you so much for this session!
Pam Sugarman
01:04:49
Thx. Very useful and inspiring!
Catalina Mihaela Tempeanu(tennis)
01:05:25
Thank you ❤️
Leah 🦋
01:05:26
Take care and be well.
M
01:05:32
12/14 and January ?
M
01:05:40
What is the January date?
Victoria-Rose Supper
01:05:44
January 4th :)
SBK
01:05:53
Thanks Julie and Victoria-Rose for making this happen!
Sue Bender
01:05:56
@Teri. Thank you. I tend to feel a disconnect with FB, zoom, and other not-in-person relationships.
Garry Dillon
01:05:57
Thank you everyone❤️
M
01:06:11
Thank you!