Welcome everyone!

Welcome everyone- please feel free to introduce yourself in the chat!

Hello! Julianne Kotcho, Mendham Twp. Elementary School Principal

Hi everyone! I'm Janelle Greco and I'm the Director of Education at Youth Communication (NYC non-profit writing and PD program)

Mike Braverman, Dean of Students, Unity Charter School

Lauren Richardson, North Warren Regional HS, school counselor grades 9-12

Hi Everyone. Deirdre Spollen-LaRaia, West Brook MIddle School in Paramus

Hi, Good to see you all. I am a consultant with C & C Initiative

Good Afternoon Everyone, Saskia Brown, Director of Student Support Services at Sparta Twp. Public School District.

Hi! Sharon Andrews, School Counselor at Phillipsburg Middle School

Sharon Falchetta from Kittatinny Regional HS VP

Hello I am Lisa Wiater, I am currently a School Counseling Intern in Berkeley Heights Public Schools

Hi! Philip from Green Brook MS, Instructional Aide SPED

Hello everyone . Cathy Lomauro, Student Assistance Counselor at Montville Township High School

hello! I am Meghan Deutsch, and am a school psychologist in Green Brook Township Schools

Hi, I'm Gayle Colucci- District Coordinator of Culture and Climate for Cranford NJ schools

Katie Winkelman School Counselor Byram Lakes Elementary School

Andrea Sadow, Elementary School Counselor in Summit Public Schools

Hi. Hillary Clark Mendham Twp School counselor

Good afternoon! Mike Craver, Elementary Principal, Washington Twp Schools (Morris County)

Hi Everyone! Ann-Marie Carey, school consultant for the Initiative…

Alicia Subervi, Principal, Green Brook MS

Hi Everyone. I'm Susan Rautenberg, counselor at Phillipsburg Middle School

Vanessa De Jesus. Paramus Middle School Counselor

Hi I'm Dottie Buel I'm a school social worker at Great Meadows Middle School, I work pk-8.

Hi, Marie Hoffman, school psychologist from Green Brook Middle School

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Hi! Marydenise Appio school social worker from Green Brook Schools

Alan Zuckerman, Special Education Teacher @ Green Brook Middle School

Hello. Jaime Walker, Director of Guidance for Somerset Hills SD.

Union County is missing from the poll!

Hopeful , Optimistic

Sorry Union County!

overwhelmed but driven

happy and hopeful

overwhelmed and intrigued

Hopeful but overwhelmed

Excited, tired

optimistic and happy

Peaceful, Tired

Overwhelmed, supported

tired but hopeful!

busy but okay

Busy and supported

Overwhelmed and hopeful

overwhelmed but fine

Tired and optimistic

Tired and busy

Tired and okay

Drained but hopeful

Hopeful, yet tired

optimistic and overwhelmed

frustrated

Overwhelmed and optimistic

energized and happy

rushed and happy

Im okay but overwhelmed

restless and hopeful

hopeful

Overwhelmed and positive

numbness

impatience, anger

Inability to slow down and rest

anger, frustration,

exhaustion

Tension in body

impatient

irratibility

withdrawal

paralysis - inability to move forward

Anger

Being crabby

Negativity

Exhaustion

overwhelmed

checked out

insensitive

Frustration, less patience

withdrawal, defeatist thoughts

Don't want to hear about one more issue or problem

Exhaustion, easier to get hurt/feel pain

Leave me alone, I have my own problems.

less access to resources

There might be less support

Less access to

more isolation

less access to resources, less support

Less opportunity for medical resources

less populated

more isolated,

inexperience

Still finding comfort in routines

not fully developed coping mechanisms, lack of experience

less resiliency

training for what really happens every day may be limited

Seen it all already;)

less coping strategies developed

not as jaded

no therapy

Still learning their own boundaries and developing coping strategies

Seasoned people have developed coping skills, established connections with other professionals they can talk through things with

Have wellness days for staff

support groups, days off

support peers

time for staff to meet with each other

happy hours

+1 to happy hours

Time for staff to socialze

Support mindfullnes

Social opportunities

provide communication opportuities

less meetings, more down time for staff to get together.

relationship building opportunities across departments

periodic check-ins

mindfulness practices, less meeting time

provide secretarial support to lessen task responsibilities

Open Door Policy with Admin

More Counselors (ASCA 1/250)

random acts of kindness among staff

Bring in Therapy dogs :)

try to keep a level of detachment from school situations vs. personal beleifs

Learn to say no

not checking emails after hours, especially on weekends!

Don't check email after work hours (I need to take my own advice).

Take work email off of personal phone

providing space when someone needs it

setting a stop time for yourself, and sticking to it

have scheduled time off, leave work at work

have cutoff time at home to not read and respond to emails

turn off notifications after work

Only answering emails during school hours

remove work line off of cell phone

Give yourself the ability for self-compassion

Taking an actual lunch for yourself

if working at home, keep work stuff in a separate place and only use that space for work

making calendar appointments for everything, including lunch, rest, fun

Put a disclaimer on emails that this email is out of school hours so that others know that we are not 24/7 employees

take work emails off of visibility on your phone at night when home and on weekends.

detaching from the idea that you have to be overextended in order to be dedicated

Be mindful of exhausting your personal beliefs during work situations.

+1 Catherine

You have an awareness of what you can do ( and not do!) and what you need help with.

If you're not aware of the impact of a situation you will suffer the effects physically

You are self-aware to know when you need additional care, and can self manage. You can also become aware of those around you that are good or not so good for you

If you are emotionally strong you will be strong in other areas of your life: physical, emotional, spiritual etc

can help with your reactions to situations

greater self awareness can lead to greater acceptance of ourselves, our limitations, our needs

Lowered stress levels

Allows you to have perspective and take appropriate proactive measures to help mediate various scenarios.

Having the right balance helps us be helpful but not get overwhelmed

Skill for dealing with challenges as they arise, or navigating when and where appropriate

At our core, humans need to feel valued and that they are making a contribution to a cause.

Helps us to effectively manage change and challenging tasks which lowers physical ailments (blood pressure, etc.)

awareness and being able to assess a situation

You need to be aware of how it is effecting you and when you need support

Positive outlook helps us stay strong

When you are aware of your feelings you have a better awareness of what you need

Knowing when to put up boundaries or when to ask for help

If we are aware of our limitations, we can be more proactive in getting support

Love that book!

I am so sorry I have to leave the meeting. Thank you Amy!! This was amazing!

I must go to a staff meeting. Thank you!

Take care Mike!

Smile file!

Nice Notes file for your email!

The video is fabulous!

there's a lot of cognitive research on the importance of place on focus, etc

Others can only take "too much' from us if we allow it

Self Care Examples: https://files.constantcontact.com/58eff7eb701/ac54258d-7f3b-4990-ad1b-18843fbd9c6d.docx

Standards of Self Care: https://files.constantcontact.com/58eff7eb701/ba4f8900-78f0-402d-8181-d1b6e0fc6ac6.docx

New grant cycle for Sustainable Jersey for Schools Funding Opportunity Funded by NJEADeadline: April 30, 2021https://www.sustainablejerseyschools.com/grants/pseg-cycle/

Join SEL4NJ: https://sel4nj.org/get-involved/join/

Join Us for #SELday - March 26, 2021Sign up for SEL Day here: https://selday.org/

Celebrate the importance of social emotional learning (SEL) on the second annual International SEL Day on March 26th. The theme this year is Building Bonds, Reimagining Community. We encourage all schools to participate in some way - create a video or provide a photo showcasing the things you are doing to promote SEL in your school and community, then share it out on SEL Day.If you create an artifact (which many NJ schools did last year for SEL Day!) it would be wonderful if you could send SEL4NJ (info@sel4nj.org) a copy of your artifact (video, photos, blogs, podcasts, etc.) with the theme of your artifact included in the subject line. We'd love for you to forward it to us (info@schoolcultureandclimate.org) to share as well.

Next Coffee ChatMarch 24 – 9:30 a.m. – 10:30 a.m.Register at: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZ0qc-qgqDwvGN2wsATkiNE4jXStgsnyl68w

Job-Alike Coffee ChatAdministrator Network Coffee ChatMarch 31 from 9:30 - 10:30 a.m.Register at: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZ0ld-ygpzwtHd3PH8wsvCYHwNYuwq1sAefz

The counselor chat was awesome@

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Thank you!!

Thank you for being with us!

Beautiful

Thank you that was great

What we think about we bring about. What we focus on we find or see more of!

Thank you all so much...This WS was really great...

Thank you. Very worthwhile

Thanks Philip!

This has been a wonderful presentation - thank you!

The video was great and so was this whole meeting! I'm grateful to have had the time to spend with colleagues, learning how to take protect and care for ourselves and others. Thanks for another awesome SSN meeting!

Thank you!

Thanks everyone - you made my day!