questions when helping someone with a conflict they are in

1. describe what the conflict is about

2. what would be your goals in resolving this conflict?

3. what might be their goals in this conflict?

4. what would be the worst outcome if the conflict doesn't get resolved?

5. share the perspective of the other party in the conflict

I have told the same exact word by the father of my children

Character assassination.

6. Do a deeper exploration of the feelings, needs, goals on each side of the conflict and look where there might be any shared needs/goals

7. what are some possible ways to achieve the best solution to this conflict?

You all can explore solutions even if the possibilities don't seem likely or plausible at this time

8. how can you translate these ideas into action steps?

what action steps could you commit to, including the when and how?

offer to check in with them at some point in the future to see how they are doing with the action steps that they committed to

There's never nothing you can do when things are caught in separation. Always remember the power of prayer - hold them in your heart , and pray for them to heal from the pain that they felt.

Sulha- reconciliation

For those who have not chosen to vaccinate, or if you know a beloved who feels isolated because of their choice not to vaccinate, you have my permission to put them in touch with me marhand@gmail.com

FYI ansarcouncil99@gmail.com

link to the website: https://suficommunities.org/community-connections/our-communities/affiliate-groups/the-unity-project/

Series of classes on creating a safe and inclusive space for conversations around COVID-19Classes will inshallah be held on Saturdays from 12-1:30 pm ET/9-10:30 am PTFeb 19 “Difficult conversations – Moving beyond the written word”March 5 “Need to be right - Getting out of dualistic thinking”March 19 “Listening”April 2 “Politeness (adab) and Disagreement”April 16 “Empathy - Connecting with the heart of the other”May 14 “Tools to facilitate Difficult Conversations”May 28 “Working with Anger - Your own and others’ ”

The suggested average donation for this 7 class series is $120.Approximately half of the payment collected goes to the teachers, a quarter to SSC, and a quarter to the poor. We are using an average suggested donation here because in our path (Sufism and Islam), the custom is for those who have more contribute more, and those who have less give less, to make sure the door is open for all, regardless of the ability to pay, inshaAllah. We need a minimum of 30 people registered, inshaAllah, to go forward.

This program is such a beautiful example of several ministries in the

Tariqa to come together to bring forth a single offering. So grateful.

jaqdavies@gmail.com

theunityproject@suficommunities.org