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can you recommend anything to help with a lack of libido with the mum

that was excellent! thank you Catherine!

after my first child was born my husband took offence to my lack of libido and feels I don’t want him in that way. how can I explain to him I just don’t feel like it. I also breast feed for 3 years!

Emily Nagoski’s ‘Come as you are’

Completely relate to all the different points you talked about... How do you work things out if we are both the people who need the space? We tend to have the 'argument', stay quiet and away from each other for a while and then act like nothing happened and nothing gets resolved..

We really struggle with grandparents. my in-laws live nearby and usually provide childcare, so they see our daughter a lot. My parents live away so we see them every couple of months. But we are constantly arguing about how much the grandparents are seeing our daughter. How can we get over this?

Mating in captivity- Esther Perel

We are the same Becky. I often feel like I'm in a relationship with my in-laws too. Partner doesn't see a problem and any time I try to talk about it.. It always comes back to me 'not liking his mum' .. I'm working hard to understand she is Mias Grandma but still struggling!

my husband often feels he needs to tell me what to do in terms of looking after my baby, but it’s in a condescending way. he doesn’t recognize it hurts my feelings, makes me feel like a useless mum, I have told him how it makes me feel but he doesn’t try speak more caring. what can I do to help in this situation as it’s causing resentment

I’m glad you feel the same!

Same!

You're definitely not alone Becky!!

I'm pregnant and I always had a high sex drive it's crazy now but my husbands has always been lower and now even less..

I really struggle with my in- laws too! I think my mother in law needs to cut the apron strings with my husband!

I hear you caroline 🤣

Me too Caroline!

I missed some of the talk as baby woke up from his nap so I might of missed it but I’ve got a lot of sleep resentment, any idea how to deal with that?? worse at the minute as he’s 4 months! my husband sleeps in the other room most of the time to sleep

if he doesn’t sleep I end up with a grumpy husband and a grumpy baby 🤦🏻‍♀️

thanks Catherine for all your advice. we had couples therapy for a long time but sadly my husband felt like he was being ganged up on. we did go on Relate waiting list but with no one to look after our children made it difficult. we did use a private counselor but we couldn’t afford it long term. it’s such a shame it’s hard to get support when you become parents and have relationship problems and no family to support. I think there are a lot of families in that position

what were the details of that online course thing?

I think my partner would feel the same Rose and wouldn't even entertain the idea.. I don't like talking to family about our problems as I feel guilty for involving them.. Maybe my issue more than anything else x

Here here, my husband plays xbox every single evening :/

Catherine, what’s the online course you mentioned that costs £20?

www.insightandconnection.teachable.com

Thank-you Catherine!

Thank you Catherine

Thank you Cathrin

link doesn’t seem to work? shows ‘403 Forbidden’

resolved

http://insightconnection.uk/

This has really been a truly inspiring session, just what I needed! Thank you so much again!

Thank you so much x

https://insightandconnection.teachable.com/p/love-in-lockdown/

That was great, thanks!